Not Your Stereotypical Essay

An Essay By Kassady // 4/2/2013

Judging a Book By It's Cover.

Something I have done countless times. It''s something that I do unknowingly... until I'm proven wrong. I hate to be wrong, which is something I'm striving to overcome. Judging a book by it's cover is so simple, so easy, but so restricting a thing to do. I have judged books by their covers, too often, and have been proven wrong even more often.
It's not just books, but I also judge people as well. I stereotype people, and judge them for those stereotypes I've placed upon them. This restricts the love which I could feel and show towards everyone and everything.
Stereotypes limit our ability to meet new people, to learn new things, to try new things. Judgement and Stereotyping are best friends, they work like protons and neutrons, together as one. It's difficult--when society tells us that judgement is healthy--to rid ourselves of judgement and thus shed stereotypes. But nothing is impossible.
This essay, it's not your Stereotypical Essay. It's not about religion, it isn't about history, it isn't about politics, or natural disasters. It is about philosophy, which might be considered a stereotypical essay genre. But now... I'm just putting things into boxes ;)

1st Example: I was on a trip last year ( I think it was last year?) and we had stopped at a McDonalds. We got food and then headed back to the car. While going out, I held the door for three... stereotypical "gangster" looking fellows. Backwards baseball caps, baggy pants, long white tank tops... yah know.
Now get this.
Two of them thanked me for holding the door open. The third walked in without saying anything. One of the two guys turned to the third guy and said "Hey, you didn't say thank you."
Haha! I was judging them by their covers, but it didn't mean that they were mean, rude, gangster guys, like I had stereotyped them for. They did have manners, and they were nice, right? This is a perfect example about judging someone for the way they look. And I'm not saying you shouldn't be wary if someone looks dangerous. Don't just trust and assume that everyone is nice, safe, and friendly... but trust your intuition and don't judge people for a stereotype.

2cd Example: I'm reading a book right now, which actually does have a book cover which I judged. It has a girl in a frilly pink dress which is billowed around her dramatically, and her face is covered by her hair which is being dramaticalyl blown by wind. In the background is a blanket of stars. The story if about a girl who starts hallucinating different things. I thought it would be awful, really badly written, very inappropriate, bad language, cheesy. But it is very well done, very enjoyable and intriguing.
This is the literal "Judging a book by it's cover".

3rd Example: During the same trip as before, we had stopped at a rest stop, bringing out my friends white little fluffy Bichon Frise for a walk. We used the restrooms and then was about to get back in the car when a biker... a stereotypical looking biker (Big guy with a leather jacket, bandanna, scruffy face) pointed to the little dog and smiled, "Oh those are great dogs" he said. "I love mine."
This makes me laugh every time I think about it.

4th Example: My friend has a friend who I met who is very sweet, very happy all the time, cheerful and friendly. She signed up to this writing site I own and her poetry might be the darkest I've ever read! Now, if I had read the poetry first before meeting her, I probably would have envisioned a very sad, depressed person with black clothes and a negative attitude all the time, I would have judged her for her poetry (her cover). Having met her first, I was expecting light, whimsical, love poetry... and was surprised. Her writing, and wording are really fantastic, she really enthralls the reader with her deep meanings... I judged her by her cover (her happy-go-lucky attitude).

We authors must be the best example of all. You really can't judge us by our covers (our writing... or our selves). We can be very contradictory at times. We may seem really well learned, bubbly, wordy through our writing; but if one were to really meet us in person, we might seem shy, quiet, or rambling of speech. We might over-exaggerate in our writing all the time, but really be very serious, practical people.

Really, when you think of all the stereotypes we put upon people (and ourselves), those stereotypes are mostly wrong. They just hold us back from the potential we could really be, or the potentially great friend (or good book) someone (or something) could be.

So no matter how cheesy or childish a book cover is, no matter how happy or gangster someone looks, Don't Judge Them By Their Cover.

Comments

Hi Bestfriend! I loved this

Hi Bestfriend!

I loved this essay. It was simple and straightforward, completely to-the-point. I'll admit that I've done that, too. It's so easy to judge people/books/television shows/days/animals/anything and everything by its cover. It's important to remind yourself to step back and get to know whatever it is you're about to judge. :) So I loved the message in this.

Wait...so the gangster guys thing happened when we were on our trip together?? WHY DO I NOT REMEMBER THIS! Wait...wait...I think I might. I think I do. We heard him mutter it to his friend, right?

They just hold us back from the potential we could really be, or the potentially great friend (or good book) someone (or something) could be.

^ Loved that.

Great work, Kass! Keep it coming!
Love ya!
-Homey :D

Madeline | Tue, 04/02/2013

everything was better when/you would call and I'd be like/yeah babe, no way

Haha

Thanks!
I know! I've been really trying to catch myself judging, and trying to cut down on it, that's why I wrote this... more of a reminder to myself :)

Yeah it was our trip together... remember? I sent a text to my mom afterward explaining what happened and then my little brother got hold of the phone and kept sending me random letters "hkshhfghfshiofgfduffyefrnkn" haha...

Thanks again! Oh and really loved Red Pen, very well done.

Kassady | Tue, 04/02/2013

"Here's looking at you, Kid"
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Write On!

:)

I wish more people would wait to know you before making judgments. I know I'm guilty of it myself, but lately I've been seeing/reading a LOT of judging books (read: people & theologies) by their covers and realizing more and more how awful it is.
Anyhow, the third example made me laugh. :)

Kyleigh | Wed, 04/03/2013

Thanks!

Thanks so much for reading!!!

Kassady | Wed, 04/03/2013

"Here's looking at you, Kid"
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Write On!

Guilty

Just recently I was guilty of judging a person by their cover. It was a friend of my sister’s and I wondered why she hung out with him so much when he talked kinda funny. Then I ended up spending a lot of time with my sister, him and their friends other a youth trips I realized he was tons of fun to a hang out with and extremely nice. When I got home I stopped for a moment and realized I was being extremely rude by judging him before I really knew him. I’ve really been trying not to judge people by their appearance now.

The Way | Thu, 04/04/2013

ha

I completely do not talk like I write! Or am as inspired all the time in real life :D

Entertaining not-stereotypical essay! :)

Sarah Bethany | Fri, 04/05/2013

Thank you!

Thanks The Way and Sarah Bethany for reading and commenting! It really means a lot to me!!!
I know right?! It's so hard to not judge... hopefully it'll get easier ;)
Thanks again!

Kassady | Sat, 04/06/2013

"Here's looking at you, Kid"
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Write On!

Good job :)

Great post. I really enjoyed it. :) One thing that I've found is that it's a lot harder to judge when you know how it is to be judged. I don't naturally have a friendly personality, so it's hard for me to get to know people and for other people to get to know me. Because of that, I try to be friendly with those who are left out and judged by others, because I know how they feel. It's not always easy ...but it's a small price to pay compared to what Jesus paid for us.

~Tahl

(Oh, and by the way ...Tass is finished if you want to check it out. ;)

Tahlia Grant | Mon, 04/08/2013

Great Essay!

It's good to have this reminder, because I don't think that any of us are free from this problem. I know that I have this problem major, but am trying to squelch it. Anyways, great essay!
Haha! Example 3 is the best!

Arthur | Mon, 04/15/2013

"My greatest wish for my writing is that it would point you to the Savior."

I really enjoyed this essay.

I really enjoyed this essay. I think that this is one of your best. 1st example: love. I just love and appreciate men strangers with manners. It gives me some hope. Good job. :)

Lucy Anne | Mon, 04/15/2013

"It is not the length of life, but the depth of life." Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wow! Thanks!

Wow! Thanks guys! I don't think I've ever gotten this many comments on one posting! thank you, thank you, thank you! You are all awesome, and not in a stereotypical way ;)

Kassady | Tue, 04/16/2013

"Here's looking at you, Kid"
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Write On!

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